It’s Time To Go Back To Talking To Each Other

Time to Be Accountable

Time to Be AccountableAs we cross the time and space barrier faster than ever before, as technology takes even more control of our lives and as communication options multiply, it’s time to get back to connecting human to human.
Entrepreneurs and small business owners now make up far more of the workforce than ever before. Remote work is now the norm, which means we are also more isolated now than any other time in history. Facebook, Skype chat, and Slack, while connecting people, are also isolating them as well. Emotionally, the distance grows while intellectually, it appears efficient.
Social support, which used to be fully wired into our social work environment, is missing for many of us,  It’s simply not there. That emotional toll is taxing our very happiness. We are presented with more and more noise on social media which a portrays a false definition of “friendship.”
The self-doubt and feelings of inadequacy, which are normal human emotions, under certain conditions are over-amplified in isolation. We used to have co-workers, managers and a closer-knit physical network to express our feelings and keep us accountable.

We Need More Human Interaction To Survive and Thrive


I grew up in an era where the only tech I was exposed to was an AM Radio, a Black and White TV, a CB radio, and an 8 track tape player. Of course, we had rotary phones. We talked to each other back then. We talked a lot.
The time has come to return to the era of connection; the mentor, the partner, the one-on-one mastermind. Mentors come in different forms. My mentors were people who I met in life and learned so much from our association. My mentors, the people who I interacted with for years at a time, people like Chet Holmes, Tony Robbins, Jay Abraham and others were there to help me. Chet was my friend, my mentor, my accountability partner as I was his.
Sitting alone with a laptop at Starbucks is not human interaction, but we seek out the presence of others to feel connected. The gig economy has turned us into digital nomads and while that may mean more freedom from a traditional commute, and more profit for your boss, it’s not great for feeling connected to others.
In my book The Invisible Organization, I blueprint the process for CEOs to send their workforce home. It’s certainly more profitable, but there are consequences and we are starting to see those show up now.

Coaching Is Great, But It’s a Business Relationship Only


Coaching has been a part of my life for the last 30 years on one level or another. I’ve had paid coaches and I’ve been a paid coach/consultant for many. I used coaching in the same way my clients do; to accelerate a transition from one level to another. If you can pay some money to be guided to that next level, it saves time, it saves wasting money on making unnecessary mistakes and it’s far faster. But the long-lasting and most valuable relationships are peer-to-peer. Those are the relationships where we became interested in another person’s needs and they in ours.

Where Are We Without Support?

Where are we without supportIn my world, I need support and I provide support. I can inspire others even when I can’t inspire myself. Yet, when I need to be held accountable, my support partner is there for me. This is not a fee-based relationship, it’s a relationship based on mutual need, respect, and friendship.
If you are not in a mutual support-based relationship, then you are missing out on one of the most enriching relationships we can have as human beings. It goes beyond friendship and shows a level of caring not found in many other places.
It’s not hard to build and maintain these type of relationships, in fact, it’s far easier than you think. Get started now to find your perfect support partner and hold each other accountable. It will become one of the most important relationships you ever form.
If you are ready to get the support you need, without hiring a coach or going to see a therapist, then I have a possible solution for you. It’s called The Results Breakthrough Network and it’s like for people who want accountability relationships. Maybe you can find a partner, finish a course you bought, connect with another person or help someone in need of your wisdom, and feel fulfilled and connected.


Keeping Yourself Accountable, A Few Easy Steps

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Have you ever found yourself extremely motivated and determined to do whatever is you set your mind to doing, but then you fall short for whatever the reason?  You say to yourself, “I am going to hold myself accountable for my actions,” but then you slack off and come up with excuses?


We all have had moments where we start off so great by changing our mindsets for the better, staying focused and making sure that we do stay accountable to ourselves to get what we need to get done done.


What sometimes happens though is that we “lose” our drive, motivation, inspiration and so forth, to hold ourselves accountable. It starts becoming much easier to make excuses for why we can’t do something instead of persevering through to get things done.


For me, when I was going through my bouts of dealing with life and not being as motivated as I thought I should, I had to get my thinking in line with my desires. I realized that I didn’t have the luxury of a negative thought, which could have spiraled me further towards the dark side. I fought back, I stopped my negative, non-productive thoughts and replaced them consciously with encouraging ones.


In the past, I had help keeping me motivated and holding me accountable, but it ultimately came down to me being able to keep myself motivated and accountable to my immediate goals. There’s only so much anyone can do; you have to decide to take hold of your conscious thoughts and be resilient to the temptation to slide back into a bad place.


There were a few different things I did and still do to this day, to make sure I kept myself accountable. Sure, there were days where I simply would be annoyed with myself and wanted to toss in the towel but, I would push myself because I knew I wanted and needed to succeed more than anything.

A few of the different steps I take to hold myself accountable:

First and foremost, I make an effort to always kept a clear mind by having some “alone time” and eliminated any unnecessary distractions. I do this by reserving time on my calendar, unplugging from electronic devices and focusing on journaling my thoughts and feelings.

I read daily affirmations and inspirational quotes from books of wisdom, sometimes those written before the invention of the printing press. This helps keeps me positive, motivated and focused on something bigger than my problems or issues, which seemed petty and unimportant in comparison.

Every day, I write in my journal detailing what tasks need to be completed on that day and why it’s important that I complete them. That helps me to stay focused and not put them off. Another thing I write down are the people I need to connect with that day, and I make an effort to make that gesture.

I utilize the calendar on my iPhone by inserting my daily tasks and set times for when I need to start and finish them by.

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Staying accountable to each other means we both win.

These are basic steps that I take to make sure that I stick to my path and this is what helps keep me focused and accountable. So, try utilizing these steps yourself to help you get back on track and keep you accountable for what you desire to.

Obviously, if you can work with another person, if you can have an accountability partner weekly, that will go a long way towards keeping you accountable and focused on your goals.

If this resonates with you, let me know. From my own client work, I now see how important accountability is, and I want to do everything I can to encourage everyone to be true to their own goals with a little help from a friend.

Want To Succeed In Business? Get An Accountability Partner


Why do some business people achieve enormous amounts of success while others fail miserably? Why do some people reach their goals while others conquer even the simplest milestones?

While there are certainly a number of factors involved, one of the key reasons some succeed and others don’t is the presence of accountability. When a person has a business accountability partner, they are much more likely to achieve their goals, reach success, and build the business they’ve dreamed of.

But what exactly is accountability and what does an accountability partner do?

In this article, we’re going to break down the how, what, and why of accountability partners so that you know how to implement the practice in your life.


Accountability Defined


What exactly is accountability? You’ve heard people talk about it, but do you really know what it means?

The great botanist and inventor George Washington Carver once said, “Ninety-nine percent of all failures come from people who have a habit of making excuses.”

And you know who makes excuses? Loners.

You know who can’t make excuses? People who have other people making sure they don’t make excuses.

This is the essence of accountability. If you have someone holding you accountable, you agree to report to that person, accepting responsibility for what you’ve done (or haven’t done). Accountability is having some else call you to give an account (a report) for what you have or haven’t done.


What Is An Accountability Partner?


Of course, it’s easy to get confused about what accountability is and how an accountability partnership works

Broadly put, an accountability partner is someone who holds you accountable for your actions. They challenge you to act in a certain way and you have to report back to them on your progress. If you fail to act in a particular way, they challenge you to do better, and in the same way, you hold them accountable for their actions. Accountability is a partnership, which means both you and your partner are adding value to each other and striving toward the same end.

Why do you need an accountability partner? Is it really that important for achieving success?

Here’s why. If you have an accountability partner, you’re 65% more likely to compete a task and you’ll increase your chance of success by up to 95%, according to a study done by The American Society of Training and Development (ASTD).

In other words, those who have an accountability partner achieve a significant amount more than those who go it alone.


Accountability vs. Ownership


Accountability vs. Ownership
Some people confuse accountability with ownership, but they are two very different things.

Accountability is extrinsic while ownership is intrinsic. Others hold you accountable, but only you can own up to your actions. Responsibility is up to you.

Here’s an example: let’s say your boss asks you to complete a project by the end of the day. He says he’s going to check with you right after lunch to see how things are going, and then he wants to meet with you at the end of the day to discuss. That’s accountability.

But then you have to own that project. You have to decide, “I’m going to make this a priority so that I have something solid when my boss checks in with me.” That’s ownership.

Accountability breeds both responsibility and ownership.


What Exactly Does An Accountability Partner Do?

This may all sound great and inspiring, but what will an accountability partner do for you? What actions make them so valuable. Specifically, they perform three distinct tasks.


They Monitor You


Your accountability partner will, in a sense, monitor you. When you meet with your partner, they’ll question you about what you did to get closer to your goals since the last meeting. When you know you have someone who will ask you these tough questions, that spurs you to push harder than you would on your own.

It’s often said that you can’t manage what you don’t measure. An accountability partner is a way of measuring and managing your life and business.


They Will Brainstorm And Share Ideas


Information is power, as they say, and your accountability partner can give you power. Your partner has different experiences than you, a knowledge base that you don’t have, and an objective perspective. They’ll share what they know with you and help you brainstorm how you can be more successful, creative, determined, etc. They can help you solve a problem you’re encountering and can help you think outside your normal boxes.


They Will Kickstart Your Motivation


Positivity and motivation are fragile states of mind, and one event can blow them away like a leaf in the wind. Reaching your goals takes time. Solving problems can be frustrating. When things don’t go your way, you can quickly sink into despair.

Putting yourself in the presence of someone who can kickstart your positivity and motivation with encouraging words and reality is the key.


Remember, It’s A Partnership


It’s one thing to hire a coach to hold you accountable, it’s another thing to find a partnership. Accountability Partnerships have the advantage of giving back to your partner in a way that help them as much as it helps you too. The “Partnership” has a feeling of being a sacred pact between two people who care enough about each other to make sure they are equally accountable.

The best part is that you don’t need a lot of skill or a college degree to be an accountability partner, since you are simply agreeing to care enough about your partner to hold them to their word, as they hold you to yours.

After about a month, you both will have become familiar enough with each other’s goals and dreams to begin building a friendship. A real friendship is built on trust which you will have already laid the foundation for throughout your sessions together.

The rich, rewarding relationship that comes from sharing deeply with another human being is a gift no one can measure but you. Be a good partner and you will get a good partner in return.


Keeping Yourself Accountable


Until you find the right accountability partner, you can work on keeping yourself accountable. Here are a few simple ways you can do that.


Question Your Questions


When things get tough, you may find yourself asking questions that start with “why.” While this is a common temptation, it makes it seem like you’re the victim. Asking “who” usually leads to you blaming others, and asking “when” can turn into “tomorrow.”

The best questions start with “what” or “how.” Like, “What can I contribute to the team meeting today?” Or, “How  can I perform better today than I did yesterday?”

When you have an accountability partner, they’re the person who will be asking you these questions.


Take Full Ownership


Have you ever made sweeping statements like, “We need to get those numbers up,” or, “We should try to avoid this for next time,” but you’re actually trying to make a point about someone else on your team? Instead of just saying “you,” you swap it out with “we.”

Not only does that come across as condescending, but it lacks ownership. Who didn’t meet this month’s goals? You didn’t.

The important question is how can you make sure you meet next month’s goals? Taking this type of ownership is an important step in the accountability process.


Track Your Progress


It’s not enough to just make big goals. You need a way to ensure that you’re actually moving forward on all of your goals.

Make a chart. Create a spreadsheet. Do something that clearly tracks your progress toward your goals. Then look at that chart or spreadsheet every day. Score yourself. How are you doing? Are you improving?

When you get an accountability partner, they’ll be the one helping you to keep close watch on your progress.


How To Find An Accountability Partner


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Now that you know know why an accountability partner is the best path to success, it’s time to find one. But how in the world do you find a partner that will benefit you?

You can’t just choose any upstanding person to be your partner. They have to have a certain set of characteristics.

Honesty: Your accountability partner needs to be brutally honest with you. If they sugar-coat things, they’re no good to you. That’s just playing to your ego. You won’t make progress with a flatterer as an accountability partner.

Reliability: What good is an accountability partner if they’re not present to hold you accountable? You need a partner who is reliable – they show up to every accountability meeting, they’re always prepared, and they always give sound advice.

Clarity: Your partner needs to be clear in their thoughts and their expectations of you as well as what you should expect of them. If the parameters and rules aren’t set up beforehand, this partnership won’t be as efficient as it could and should be.

Trustworthiness: This may seem obvious, but it needs to be stated. If you don’t trust a person – whether it’s because of their reputation or if they just rub you the wrong way – don’t partner up with them.

Competent: Your partner needs to have at least some of the characteristics that you lack. Do you get stressed by the little things? Find someone who sees the big picture. Do you have nearly unbreakable focus? Pair up with someone who sometimes does too many things at once. That way, they can fill in the gaps for you and you can do the same for them. Giving back may teach you something too.


How To Make The Most Of Your Accountability Partnership


Just having an accountability partner won’t do the trick. Once you have one, you’ll need to harness the full potential of this new relationship. Here are a few ways to make the most of it.


Get Specific


When you talk with your accountability partner, be specific about your goals, your concerns, and your questions. Be specific about the rewards of pursuing a goal as well as the consequences of not reach them.

Remember, honesty and transparency are keys to a successful accountability partnership.


Meet Regularly


Schedule a regular check-in time with your partner. Set up a weekly coffee shop meeting, Skype call, or even text message conversation. It doesn’t have to be weekly, but it should be on a regular basis and consistent.




It might be easy to just hang out with this person, talk, and say positive things to each other, but don’t forget about the whole reason for this partnership – goals. Each meeting, revisit the goals and the strategies you’ve discussed before and make sure you’re on track.


Using Accountability With Your Employees


Accountability offers huge benefits for your business. If you encourage your employees and co-workers to apply these accountability practices – as well as applying them yourself- your business will be better for it.

Why? Because people who are more successful, more productive, and ultimately happier will create a more positive environment and a more efficient business.

Aside from verbally suggesting your employees get accountability partners, you can also foster an environment that encourages and rewards taking ownership.

Here are some simple ways to do that:

  • – Be open about your vision and goals for the company
  • – Involve your employees in setting company goals and planning company activities
  • – Explain why you make the decisions you make
  • – Include them in the process of deciding how something is done
  • – Delegate authority (not just work)
  • – Trust them
  • – Encourage problem solving
  • – Give constructive feedback
  • – Acknowledge them when they take ownership
  • – Hold them accountable and let them hold you accountable in the workplace




Remember, most failures happen because somebody made an excuse. Accountability – when you do it right – makes excuses nearly impossible. Failure is almost impossible when it comes face to face with accountability.

Success is the only path left to take.

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